I remember a teacher long ago who asked a question to which I hesitantly offered the answer “…Love?”

I remember the look in his eyes, like maybe I had finally got it, and his reply. “Yes! Love is always the answer.”

It was this sort of Love:

Love = Acceptance = Allowance = Forgiveness

The equation is my own (I think), it just formed in my mind, parked itself in a corner, and has served me well. Maybe it will work for you too.